Thursday, July 29, 2010

Friends and old values

I was visited in the past week by a dear friend. I met Milada when I was propped up in a hospital bed in Germany, unable to speak or move. Milada has remained a friend ever since and I cannot take credit for this good friendship as I have not been a good contributor to it during the ups and downs since. However, I am grateful to find people in this world who still hold fast to lasting values.

Milada with me in my backyard

Milada's stay with me was a reminder that we all need each other and life, living and loving are part of what makes us human. Our modern world is not very clever. Whilst we surround ourselves with gizmos and gadgets to help us achieve more output,we are isolating ourselves from the benefits only attained through social input. Yes talking on Facebook is good but face to face is better. Yes we can text updates every moment on twitter but how much better to have your thoughts spoken to someone you are with. Humans need each other. If Africans can say "It takes a whole village to bring up a child" are they referring the amount of people, or the quality of the interactions? I think a good friend is of more value to our happiness than a shopping centre of passers by. We cannot be happy in a cocktail party society. Sometimes to sit quietly with your best friend can mean more than a hundred conversations.

To all my friends: thank you.

I was pleased to have my children overnight. We spent some time together. I was presented with this lovely caramel sponge which we consumed with tea later.




Alex trying unsuccessfully to convince Dot that she really enjoys the trampoline.


4 comments:

Coral Ladwig said...

G`day there. Is nice to see your smiling face on face book. Is also good to read your blogs again. Take care. xxxcoralxxx

Evelyn said...

Hello dear Julius - so nice to see some fresh news from you! You growing a beard? Nice rugged look!

I agree wholeheartedly with you - nothing like some quiet face to face time with true friends - so special.

Think of you often.
Sending love and hugs

Anonymous said...

Hi Julius, I agree completely.. so often we live our lives without really 'seeing' those around us. Today's world is too full of gadgets... I much prefer the old days when you picked up a phone and actually spoke to each other or went round someone's house to chat face to face. So much is lost in the written word (especially texts) when a simple expression can say so much....

By the way, you are certainly looking good - the beard suits you !
Take care from a very cold but sunny Durban...
Diana

Mother said...

Hi Jules, Yes, friends are a bonus in any situation and must be valued not taken for granted. The caramel strawberry cake brings back many memories of the one that the children baked when we were visiting a few years ago. Remember the looks on their faces when it had to be shared by others who arrived for tea!! Love you - Mom