Ever noticed that it's so easy to misjudge another person? I think we all have the ability to focus on specific incidents or behaviours (often our own insecurities). We react by making a judgment against our own knowledge of the person. Doubt sets in and the sensitivity increases.How much energy we waste remembering destructive things. Much better to clarify the incident immediately and to forget or deal with it.

Destructive results occur when we remember details that are not important.

Sometimes we can waste days worrying or even damage a healthy relationship.

Its like condemming the tree for a bad apple.